HOW WE WORK

Most men I work with know what they should do differently—they just can't do it in the moment.

That's because this isn't a knowledge problem. It's a capacity problem.

We work in three phases over six months:

PHASE 1: BUILD CAPACITY

Train your nervous system to downregulate before you hit the breaking point. You'll learn to catch the activation before you snap—and stay grounded instead of shutting down.

PHASE 2: UNWIND THE BLUEPRINT

Identify the relational patterns that keep repeating. We go to the root: why your system reacts the way it does, where it learned to protect you this way, and how to update the response.

PHASE 3: INTEGRATE IN RELATIONSHIP

Apply what you've built in real-time with your partner. This is where theory becomes reality—so you can stay present when she's upset, repair without defensiveness, and lead relationally instead of reactively.

Six-month private engagement. Biweekly sessions. Confidential.

Investment: $9,600
(Payment plans available)

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WHAT MAKES THIS DIFFERENT

Action, Not Just Talk

You're not here for another therapy session where you analyze your feelings for an hour and leave with no action plan.

This is nervous system training—practical, body-based work that gives you the tools to stop the pattern before it starts.

You've tried:

  • Talk therapy (felt like talking in circles with no real changes)

  • Self-help books (generic advice that doesn't address what's actually happening in your body)

  • "Just communicate better" (impossible when you snap or shut down mid-conversation)

  • Date nights and vacations (temporary relief that didn't fix the real problem)

We train your nervous system the same way you'd train for a high-stakes negotiation—with practice, repetition, and real-time application. This isn't about "getting in touch with your feelings." It's about building capacity so you can catch yourself before you snap—and stay present instead of shutting down after.

Here's what most people don't tell you:

You can't think your way out of the snap-shutdown cycle.

When you're running on stress all day, your system doesn't know how to turn off. You're wound up—always braced, always on edge, even when there's nothing to be on edge about. Then something small happens, you snap, and the guilt and shutdown follow immediately after.

The explosion isn't the problem. The shutdown isn't the problem. It's that your body has been maxed out for so long that it's stuck in this loop.

You have to train your system to downregulate before you hit the breaking point. Then everything else becomes possible.

Using the Relational Blueprint Method™ and nervous system-led somatic work, we go beyond surface-level conversations.

You'll:

  • Walk through the door after a long day and actually feel present instead of braced for whatever's next

  • Catch yourself before you snap—so you stop the explosion-shutdown-guilt cycle instead of living in it

  • Stay calm when she's upset, instead of your mind going blank or checking out

  • Stop feeling like a failure at the one thing that should come naturally

This isn't about blame or shame. It's not about becoming someone you're not.

It's about building the capacity for connection that no one ever taught you—so you can stay calm, grounded, and present when your relationship needs you most.

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  • "Lilly’s coaching program was customized to fit my evolving needs... She has a nonjudgmental, empathetic ear coupled with an understanding of the human condition."

    —Jon, Real Estate Executive

  • "I got more out of a 40 min call with you than 5 months with my therapist."

    —Bob, Owner and CEO

  • "Working with Lilly has been a transformative experience. One of the most valuable aspects of her coaching is her emphasis on the connection between the physical and emotional self. Lilly listens with genuine empathy and without judgment, making it easy to be vulnerable and open. Much of the work we've done has focused on inner growth, helping me realize my own autonomy and power—reminding me that I am not a victim but fully in command of my own path. She brings a sense of accountability, formality, and capability to each session. Hire her."

    Rob, Retired Corporate Executive

  • "I have a better relationship with my family, friends, and most importantly, with myself."

    —Denisse, RN

  • "If there ever was a relationship manual, I think she might be able to write it. These videos are pretty to the point and powerful. I’m learning all the time how to be a better partner."

    —Ashlee

Want to see how this works?

Download my free guide:

How to Stop Shutting Down: The 3-Step System to Stay Present During Conflict

You'll get:

  • The 3-state nervous system breakdown (and why you keep going offline)

  • What shutdown actually is

  • 3 grounding exercises you can use immediately to interrupt the shutdown cycle

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